“It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles;
if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one;
if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle…Sun Tzu”
I have the privilege of working with thousands of cancer patients and their families. Although I do not have statistical data to confirm it, I am certain that those who believe deep in their soul (spirit body) they are going to beat cancer, insist on the best possible medical team and take the most aggressive treatment plans (physical body,) and surround themselves with positive supporting people and energy (emotional body) are winning the battle against cancer more often. We must heal our “whole” self; body, mind and soul.
I know of many cancer patients who have been told “You’ve got 6 months to live.” and pass on about 6 months later. There are others who defy the odds and claim that even if it’s a million to one odds, I can be that one! There are those who reject the title “cancer patient” and adopt the title “cancer survivor.” We are not patient with the disease, we are impatient with it. We want it gone and marshal all our resources to battle this disease. We rally our troops; medical professionals, family, friends, mentors, supporters, advocates, peer navigators and others. I am the general of my army to fight this disease. I do not accept that cancer is a “terminal” illness. We’re all terminal from the day we’re born. Rather, I deal with a “chronic” illness and am satisfied to keep it in check, put it into remission and fight to make it to and live fully in NED-land (No Evidence of Disease.)
I am not always capable of leading my troops. When my body, mind and/or spirit are so exhausted I have to share leadership with a trusted and dependable co-captain. Someone who I know will act and make healthcare decisions in the same way I would. A partner and care-angel to rely on when I am not able, or don’t want to go on. For me that person is my wife of 35 years, Patricia. We have been partners in this battle for 27 years and by the grace of God, we will keep fighting for 27+ more.
No one has more at stake in my survival than me. I choose who I entrust my physical healing to. I I seek out the best and demand their full attention and 110% effort to help me beat this disease physically. If I don’t get the results I demand, I am free to move on. I choose who I let onto the battlefield with me. Some are negative and draw down my energy. People who make it all about how they feel because I have cancer. Sorry, Charlie, suck it up and do your crying on your own. I seek supporters who are positive and fill me with positive energy. I’m in the fight for my life and may not get a second chance, so either get on board or get out of my way. I visualize a healthy, happy future and will make decisions and take all actions needed to move forward into that future.
I will keep fighting!
Randy, 27 year cancer survivor